Reclaiming the Family – Part 6 – The Miracle of a Traditional Wife

I never tire of reminding Camera Girl that in my mind she and I are very close in behavior to the married couple in W. C. Fields two classic movies, “It’s A Gift” and “The Man on the Flying Trapeze.”  In both movies Field’s hen-pecked character has a wife played by Kathleen Howard a tall, stout woman who affects the character of a cultured, histrionic scold who constantly hectors and nags at Fields’ character.  And Fields’ answer to almost every utterance of his wife is a meek, “yes dear.”  And I tell her this not because there is any resemblance physically or temperamentally between her and this shrewish character but because this reminds me of the natural antagonism that husband and wife experience in the course of their wedded bliss.  Well, also because I am sort of a jerk.

A few weeks ago, we were sitting down to dinner and she had cooked a soup using the leftovers from a ham we had for the holidays.  It was a ham and lentil soup and she decided to make it so thick that we call it a stoup, meaning stew/soup.  As I started eating dinner it occurred to me that being married to a woman like my wife is probably the greatest good that a man can have in his life.

A traditional wife makes your house into a home and raises a family.  And a family is the only true wealth that any man ever actually possesses.  And if she’s also pretty and a good cook like mine then it’s as close to heaven as any man can hope to see on this side of the great divide.  That’s the information I can provide to the young guys around today.

But where can you find such a woman today?  All the American girls have been sold on the idea that they have to have a career to be fulfilled in the modern world.  That is the root of the problem.  There are only two solutions, either convince some woman that there is a better option or go outside of the local pool of women.

As far as convincing women to move away from careers I think a man has to have the wherewithal to convince a woman that he can support a stay-at-home wife.  Probably that means owning your own home and having a stable income.  It would be best if you are up front about your plans and expectations so that you can eliminate the girls that will never work out.  I’m too old to know anything about on-line dating services but I would imagine a primary function would be trying to line up marital expectations.  Correct me if I’m mistaken that they must have a profile that corresponds to a traditional homemaker.

One thing that might be a starting point is avoid any girl who is planning on going to some very expensive college.  Unless her parents have funded her entire education, she is going to have to pay back those student loans and that will make it doubly difficult for you to afford a one income lifestyle.  So maybe you should be looking at women who go to the local community college or even better ones working in local jobs that do not require high powered college credentials.

But however you find one, if she has all the qualifications I mentioned in my intro then marry her and never let her work a day of her life outside of the home.  Have a passel of kids and enjoy every day of it for as long as you both shall live.  Raising a family is a challenging and sometimes a confusing task but as you get older, you’ll find that it really is the only meaningful thing that most human beings ever accomplish.    Ray Bradbury wrote a story called the Happiness Machine.  In it an inventor tried to make a machine that would make a person happy if he sat in it.  It had all the sights and sounds that he imagined could make a person happy.  Music, exotic vistas, delicious aromas, everything he thought he would want.  But by the end of the story, he discovers the truth when he looks into the window of his own house and sees his family, his wife and his children, performing their routine daily activities together in his own home.  That is the true happiness machine.  And if a man can’t find happiness in that then maybe he never will.

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The Deputy
The Deputy
1 month ago

Excellent article, Photog. My oldest son has given up on ’Murican girls. After living in Europe for a while he decided to find an Eastern European bride and is currently corresponding with a nice Polish girl.
My wife and I are closing in on 41 years of wedded bliss/combat. The journey isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. My kids (including in laws and granddaughter) are amazing. I am really enjoying my new position as patriarch of the clan.
Congrats to you and Camera Girl and may you be blessed with a long and wonderful run.

No one
No one
1 month ago

Relationships: mainly married ones, after 40+ years of ups, downs and more happiness and humor is what makes a difference. People have forgotten how to take care of each other and yes one will usually will do more than the other but in the long run it all balances out. Don’t be too quick to end a stable relationship over something that usually can be worked out. The only time to leave a relationship is when its truly destructive to one or both parties before it becomes a homicide.

oldbat
oldbat
1 month ago

one thing that you are not accounting for, at least by part 1, is the divorce rate. first and foremost we MUST make it very hard to get a divorce, like back in the old days. a single mother with no college is pretty much guaranteed to raise those kids in poverty in a ‘hood somewhere when he turns her in for a younger/more successful model.

John Chapter 8
John Chapter 8
1 month ago

That’s the boomer definition of a wife. A true Bible wife wouldn’t allow her husband to work at a company that says LBGT is a right instead of an abomination to God, or that the lives of a violent race of idiot ape-monsters that soak the land in blood “matter,” even if that meant sacrificing every comfort. She knows that those who throw in with the wicket fall in the same pit. She would rather live in the wilderness than support a satanic system like judeo-capitalism.

michael savell
michael savell
1 month ago

I couldn’t agree more,but even better is to marry a girl whom you consider to be your best friend.Women have gone power crazy.They want all; marriages to be female led which simply means that the husband ends up with nothing.

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