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I have known Camera Girl for about forty-eight years.\u00a0 We met on a beach while each of us was skipping out on our respective high schools.\u00a0 Physical attraction was the initial force that brought us together but over the years, we have interacted to the point where, we know each other as well as a man and a woman possibly can.\u00a0 And yet our motivations, methods and objectives are, if anything, even closer to being diametrically opposed now than they were at the beginning.<\/p>\n

I like to think that I base my plans on a somewhat analytical approach to accomplishing my objectives.\u00a0 So, let\u2019s say Camera Girl tells me that she wants a fish pond.\u00a0 Before committing to such a project, I would first look at the pros and cons of such a goal.\u00a0 I would ask my client what are the objectives?\u00a0 How many fish and what type are desired?\u00a0 What\u2019s the budget for construction and maintenance?<\/p>\n

Then I would look at the various options for constructing the pond.\u00a0 Should it be a liner or a solid shell?\u00a0 Should I build it or hire a contractor?\u00a0 Where should it be set up with respect to the sun?\u00a0 What safety considerations need to be weighed?\u00a0 When does it need to be completed by?\u00a0 What additional items (like a bench or some plants) are also required?\u00a0 What modifications will need to be made to the property (power line, water line) to accommodate the pond?\u00a0 And finally, how will the pond be impacted on by the surrounding wildlife?<\/p>\n

Camera Girl, on the other hand, cleans out an old muck bucket that she has lying round the yard, buys a dozen \u201cshiners\u201d at PetSmart and tells me she wants me to buy a \u201csolar\u201d fountain on Amazon.com for $12.98.<\/p>\n

I find this very disconcerting.\u00a0 I explain to her that the \u201cshiners\u201d will probably die in the bucket over the course of the summer, the fountain is a piece of crappy plastic that will probably stop working after a few weeks and she\u2019ll have to replace fish and water every few weeks.<\/p>\n

This perturbs her not the least.\u00a0 Our granddaughter will be coming over tomorrow and they like looking at the fish in the bucket for a few minutes every day.\u00a0 And none of my arguments address this goal.<\/p>\n

For she knows that if I were to undertake this epic project by the method that I favor, it would involve weeks of planning and months of installation.\u00a0 Just digging the hole would take a week or two.\u00a0 So, from her point of view my method has no upside.\u00a0 A pond that was finished in September is worse than no pond at all.\u00a0 The weeks when our granddaughter would be without the fish to interact with would be an epic failure.\u00a0 Because by September she\u2019ll be entering kindergarten and no longer around to enjoy the mega-pond that I would create.<\/p>\n

So, shaking my head and grumbling under my breath I look up this magnificent \u201cfountain\u201d and find a plethora of companies selling this same crappy plastic fountain and select the one that will deliver it for a total of $7.53.\u00a0 This is my consolation.\u00a0 I paid five bucks less for a piece of junk that probably won\u2019t last through June.<\/p>\n

But when all is said and done.\u00a0 She has logic on her side.\u00a0 That muck bucket pond is almost an optimized solution to the mission.\u00a0 A little girl will sprinkle some fish food into it and watch the fish come up to get it.\u00a0 And even if the fountain stops working and even if the racoons and the herons eat all of the fish on a weekly basis it will have served its purpose.<\/p>\n

But my pond would be much better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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